There is absolutely, positively, not one 20-year-old girl who has not been hit with the gut wrenching feeling of being left out, forgotten, cast aside or excluded. It’s a hurtful feeling that we all get when we find out our friends hung out without us. It’s a feeling that provokes tears at night when we feel lonely and neglected. It’s the feeling of being overlooked, ignored, disregarded and left behind.
Girls thrive in community. A tight-knit group of friends means acceptance, security, and a bond that is unbreakable.
Maybe that’s why my heart hurt so bad when I realized that I was the girl who had her face pressed up against the glass watching everyone else do life together, waiting for them to turn to me and invite me along.
Being a 20-year-old girl in college, living in a dorm, surrounded by other amazing Christian girls who are outgoing and influential, I naturally want to be a part of their fun. For awhile, that’s exactly what I did, and we had an absolute blast.
Then I stepped into a different season, and the days of being a happy-go-lucky college girl slipped through my fingers and fell away. I was now a happy-go-lucky college girlfriend to a guy who the Lord placed in my life so specifically and my focus drastically changed from girls weekend shenanigans to the unknown world of a Christ-centered romantic relationship.
As months passed, I struggled immensely with feeling left out of the fun that my friends were having. I thought that maybe I was doing this whole relationship thing wrong and not spending enough time with my friends was resulting in me being forgotten. I felt lonely, and I felt like it was my fault.
While all these feelings were happening, something else was happening too. I was getting to know not only the man of my dreams, but my new best friend. My new best friend who I ended up falling in love with.
Our love for each other, our love for the Lord, and our future work for the Lord took both of us down a path different from that of a normal college student. Our season of life changed in such a beautiful way that set us apart from everybody else, and in 8 months I have become the happiest person I have ever been in my life.
The thing that I had to realize is, I’m not an outcast for being in a different season of life than everyone else my age. I am set aside because the Lord has some incredible work for me and my man to do. I have learned immensely more about Jesus, His character, His mercy, His power, and His plan in the past 8 months. My faith has been tested, my obedience has been tried, my knowledge has increased, my prayer life has flourished, my walls have been torn down, my vulnerability has matured, my understanding of the Lord is like a river continuously being poured into my soul and his voice has never been more clear in my mind and spirit.
I’m not in the same season as the typical 20-year-old, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s wonderful. It can be difficult but humbling, overwhelming but fulfilling, wild but beautiful.
Ephesians 2:10 “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”